‘RETURNINGS’ – a five-day residential gathering in West Wales for anyone calling for grief to be given ‘a place at the table’

30th Nov 2016 - 4th Dec 2016
arrive any time after 14.00 for a 16.00 opening circle
For those who can contribute financially you are asked to offer an amount that you can of between £265.00 - £485.00 - to cover the costs of our time together and contribute some amount to us...please know that much of what we do is within the realms of ‘service’ - if you need to contribute less financially, or in a way other than financially please do let us know.
LED BY Gayano Shaw, Emma Collins, Jason Stewart

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Grief as wisdom, as recognition, as bearing faithful witness to ‘what is’;  Grief as a skill, joined at the hip with love and wholly mandated as part of an ennobling human endeavour... This is a time for anyone bereaved, bereft, inert, saddened, heartbroken and grappling with  how it is to be human and be alive in these times.  It is a time to be with others, for grief to be more than ‘just ‘mine’ and personal to ‘me’  - a time to be accompanied; to be part of creating a ‘non judgmental human basket in which to thrash around in’ with love, praise, gratitude and an indebtedness for being alive as cornerstones of our being together. We initiate this gathering fed from our deep living and daily practice of NVC infused with and called forth from the teachings of Stephen Jenkinson (http://orphanwisdom.com/) and others (see below), as well as our lived grief and broken heartedness.  We envisage sharing, walking, ceremony, ritual, storytelling, music, tears, laughter, and we will all be needed for fire and home tending together.  The shared garnering, preparing and cooking together of the foods that will sustain us will be part of the backbone and hearth of our being together.  Interwoven through our days will be the call to stillness, to praise, to lineage and the tending of the lived relationships between others, our non human world and the unseen world. Our five days will be woven with many threads and in particular Francis Weller's 'Five Gates of Grief’, with our days  gently anchored within the five gates: Everything We Love, We will Lose; The Places That Have Not Known Love; The Sorrows of the World;  Ancestral Grief; What We Expected and Did Not Receive We are intending poems, songs, stories, ritual, ceremony for each day to honour each of these -  the gates offering  focus and intent - a threshold towards what is there for each us. The sessions are open for anyone moved to come  - we invite an ‘etiquette of reverence’ and a willingness for big-heartedness, risk-taking and an acknowledging of the unknown as an integral part of our guiding forces. We come together to share and to learn from one another... Our home - our ‘belonging to’ - for these days is the 40 acres conservation site of Denmark Farm Trust in Ceredigion -http://www.denmarkfarm.org.uk/ where we will be based in the beautiful eco lodges and have access to the roundhouse as well as the grounds. Most of the rooms will be shared twin bedded, with one or two singles possible... Any questions, thoughts, reflections or to book -   Please  contact gayano on gayano@ymail.com, 01558 650747 or 07933 743105 With gratitude and love, gayano, jas and emma

“Slow down, uncenter and forget about yourself for a moment, let the world find you, love what is nearby, share your grief with others, say thank you, learn the stories from where you live and from where your ancestors came, be a wee bit wild in your imagination, and come home -- Francis Weller.

Honouring teachers/elders -  Stephen Jenkinson, Nathalie Roy, Martín Precthel, Francis Weller, Robert Bly, Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Sharon Blackie, Brother Blue, John O’Donohue,  Martin Shaw, Derrick Jensen, David Whyte, Rachelle Lamb, Vicky Peirce amongst others....