Transform your Relationship with Conflict
24th Oct 2020 - 24th Oct 2020
1030am-4.30pm (3 X 90 min sessions)
One session £15-£30, Two sessions £ 27-£55, Three sessions £35-£75
Led by: SARAH LUDFORD | Contact SARAH
What if we changed our relationship with conflict. Could it be easier?
Nonviolent consciousness can be hard to practice when we are in conflict. If conflict is unmet needs trying to be heard, then the longer they go unattended the louder they get, or the more hard is done. Whether the needs are mine or someone else's. We might retreat or attack, or freeze like a rabbit in headlights because we experience conflict as a threat. When we most need NVC consciousness it can be challenging to access it
In NVC all words and actions are understood as expressions of needs. Needs are beautiful expressions of life. If I can hear the needs that are being expressed in a hard to hear action or message, I can receive the message differently and find a different way to experience and respond to it. If I can remember this, then no matter how much I might judge and blame someone, there is hope of me seeing their humanity and of finding connection and understanding, with myself or with others.
This can be hard to remember in the midst of conflict. Paying attention to tensions as soon as they arise can support us to learn about what is working and what is not, and to make life serving decisions that can make life more wonderful. If we practice tuning in and listening, paying attention to smaller tensions, we can care for ourselves and others and lessen the chances of painful conflict arising. We can deal with tensions before they become threatening and whilst we still have some resources to hand. If we remember that all actions are expressions of need, and look for the needs underneath the behaviour, we can create connection and warmth even when things are difficult, and transform our relationship with conflict.
Prerequisite: We request you to have attended a minimum of 2 days NVC training to participate in this course.
The day will be split into three sections of 90 mins. You can attend one, two, or all three sessions. If you want to attend session three you will need to come to both the earlier sessions.
10.30-12.
Session 1: Inner conflict: The tensions within ourselves.
The earlier we notice tensions and reactions in ourselves the sooner we can step towards ourselves, to being alongside ourselves and meeting our needs.
- Noticing tensions
- Self compassion and self-connection
- Micro-requests
- Getting all the needs on the table
- Holding everyone with compassion
- Reducing the gap between us
- Hearing each other
- Creating connection
- Moving towards Solutions that work for everyone
- Practice, practice, practice!